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Cu\u1ed9c \u201cchi\u1ebfn tranh\u201d gi\u1eefa t\u00f4i v\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 k\u1ebft th\u00fac v\u00e0o s\u00e1ng nay.<\/p>\n
Nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y g\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y, l\u00fac r\u1ea3nh r\u1ed7i, t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ecdc t\u00e1c ph\u1ea9m \u201cT\u1ed1ng Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng Cung – N\u1eef Lu\u1eadn Ng\u1eef\u201d v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn l\u1eddi c\u1ed5 hu\u1ea5n c\u1ee7a t\u1ed5 ti\u00ean l\u01b0u l\u1ea1i: \u201cM\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ef1 tr\u00e1ch b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n th\u00ec tr\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea5t y\u00ean \u1ed5n. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u00e1ch c\u1ee9 l\u1eabn nhau th\u00ec tr\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ea3o lo\u1ea1n”. Hi\u1ec7n nay, tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi n\u00e0y, ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec1u gi\u1ed1ng nhau, \u0111\u1ec1u ch\u1ec9 ngh\u0129 c\u00e1ch l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 chinh ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng, n\u1ebfu nh\u01b0 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1eddi d\u1ea1y n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u01b0a, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd s\u1ebd b\u1edbt \u0111i r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u nh\u1eefng tranh ch\u1ea5p, phi\u1ec1n n\u00e3o kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i kh\u00f4ng? Suy cho c\u00f9ng, y\u00eau m\u1ed9t ai \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 chinh ph\u1ee5c v\u00e0 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t.<\/p>\n
B\u00e2y gi\u1edd t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n chia s\u1ebb nh\u1eefng t\u00e2m \u0111\u1eafc trong qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi v\u00e0 suy ng\u1eabm g\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n n\u1eef.<\/p>\n
Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i khi gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 gi\u1eefa hai gi\u1edbi nam v\u00e0 n\u1eef \u00edt nhi\u1ec1u ch\u1ecbu \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a v\u0103n h\u00f3a \u0111\u1ea3ng, t\u1eeb xa x\u01b0a, ng\u01b0\u1eddi Trung Qu\u1ed1c \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eeb tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean \u201cthi\u00ean t\u00f4n \u0111\u1ecba ti\u201d (tr\u1eddi tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ea5t d\u01b0\u1edbi), c\u00f9ng v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed1i \u1ee9ng gi\u1eefa c\u00e0n kh\u00f4n v\u00e0 \u00e2m d\u01b0\u01a1ng trong \u201cKinh d\u1ecbch\u201d m\u00e0 m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng ra lu\u00e2n l\u00fd trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 ngo\u00e0i x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. Trong quan ni\u1ec7m truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng cho r\u1eb1ng c\u00e0n l\u00e0 c\u01b0\u01a1ng, kh\u00f4n l\u00e0 nhu, c\u01b0\u01a1ng nhu b\u1ed5 sung cho nhau. Nam gi\u1edbi th\u00ec m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd, n\u1eef gi\u1edbi th\u00ec y\u1ebfu m\u1ec1m. Nam thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 c\u01b0\u01a1ng, n\u1eef thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 nhu. \u201cNam t\u00f4n n\u1eef ti\u201d l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1o chung s\u1ed1ng gi\u1eefa nam v\u00e0 n\u1eef.<\/p>\n
Ng\u00e0y nay, nh\u1eefng \u201cng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef m\u1edbi\u201d \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o d\u1ef1ng theo quan ni\u1ec7m v\u0103n h\u00f3a \u0111\u1ea3ng, trong qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh truy c\u1ea7u c\u00e1i g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp, th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n nam t\u00ednh h\u00f3a gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb quan cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, \u0111\u00e3 d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n m\u1ea5t \u0111i n\u00e9t d\u1ecbu d\u00e0ng, \u0111oan trang, thanh nh\u00e3 v\u1ed1n c\u00f3 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. S\u1ef1 tranh gi\u00e0nh h\u01a1n thua trong gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng lu\u00f4n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e8 n\u00e9n khi \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef lu\u00f4n ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi d\u1ed3n \u00e9p ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i ngang ng\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00e0 phi l\u00fd khi x\u1ea3y ra xung \u0111\u1ed9t khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u00e3 c\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng \u0111\u00e1nh m\u1ea5t \u0111i ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t hi\u1ec1n d\u1ecbu n\u1eef t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i th\u1ef1c ra ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i h\u01b0 gi\u1ea3.<\/p>\n
Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00ean t\u1ef1 suy ng\u1eabm l\u1ea1i b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. H\u00e3y k\u1ecbp th\u1eddi suy ngh\u0129 xem li\u1ec7u cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n v\u00e0 l\u1eddi n\u00f3i gi\u1eefa m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00f3 ch\u1ee9a \u0111\u1ef1ng \u00fd th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ea5u tranh hay kh\u00f4ng, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi khi n\u1ea3y sinh v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn, tr\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u00ean h\u00e3y h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch h\u01b0\u1edbng n\u1ed9i t\u1ef1 suy x\u00e9t. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 c\u00e2u n\u00f3i: \u201cM\u1ed9t ni\u1ec7m t\u1ef1 x\u00e9t l\u00e0 thi\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng, m\u1ed9t ni\u1ec7m ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba ng\u1ee5c\u201d.<\/p>\n
S\u1ef1 nh\u00fan nh\u01b0\u1eddng sau khi t\u1ef1 suy x\u00e9t kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 khu\u1ea5t ph\u1ee5c hay nhu nh\u01b0\u1ee3c. S\u1ef1 d\u1ecbu d\u00e0ng v\u00e0 nh\u1eabn nh\u1ecbn l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9c t\u00ednh t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p thi\u00ean t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. \u0110\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a \u201ckh\u00f4n\u201d gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 n\u01b0\u1edbc, nhu nh\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1eafng c\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u01b0\u1eddng. Ch\u1eb3ng tr\u00e1ch c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i: \u201cPh\u1ee5 n\u1eef qu\u00e1 m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd, gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e1, nam nh\u00e2n d\u00f9ng ch\u00e2n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd s\u1ee3 ch\u00e2n \u0111au; n\u1ebfu ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 n\u01b0\u1edbc, ng\u01b0\u1eddi con trai s\u1ebd nguy\u1ec7n \u00fd \u0111\u1ee1 c\u00f4 \u1ea5y b\u1eb1ng c\u1ea3 hai tay”.<\/p>\n
Do \u0111\u00f3, khi n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n th\u00ec n\u00f3i l\u1eddi d\u1ecbu d\u00e0ng, th\u00f9y m\u1ecb t\u1ef1a nh\u01b0 n\u01b0\u1edbc, kh\u01a1i d\u1eady s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 kh\u1edfi \u0111\u1ea7u m\u1edbi \u0111\u1ec3 nam gi\u1edbi v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef quay tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i chung s\u1ed1ng h\u00e0i h\u00f2a. \u0110\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi, n\u00f3 c\u00f2n gi\u00fap ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00e2m th\u00e1i \u00f4n nhu, thanh nh\u00e3 v\u00e0 an nhi\u00ean.<\/p>\n